Attaining the goal of an amicable divorce starts with one critical element: your desire not to go to war with your ex. If you want the process to go smoothly, you need to make the decision that keeping the peace is important to you. And there are many reasons why it should be.
Perhaps you want to be successful at co-parenting with your ex so your kids don’t suffer. Or maybe you don’t want to spend your savings on divorce lawyers. Whatever your reason, you can have an amicable divorce if you really want one (and your ex does, too). But you need to take some steps that will help keep the peace. Here are some tips:
Don’t go to court. Resolving your issues with your spouse outside court means that you will have more control over the final outcome. With the help of an impartial third party mediator, you can avoid a lot of stress and strife and negotiate a fair settlement.
Get a therapist. You will need help dealing with your emotions during the divorce process. Hiring a therapist to help you is one of the best ways to manage your stress level.
Educate yourself. The more you know, the better decisions you will make. Educate yourself on your financial situation and how the divorce process works.
Have realistic expectations. Getting a “good” divorce entails give and take from both parties. Be realistic about what you really need from your divorce settlement and don’t go to war over things that are unobtainable.
Consider the kids. If you have children, you must consider how your decisions will affect them. If you truly want to protect them, then you will do what it takes to minimize conflict.
Line up some support. When going through a divorce, you will need all the support you can get. Friends and family can provide important emotional support, but don’t make the mistake of listening to bad advice just because it comes from someone you know and care about. Everyone’s divorce is different.
Focus on the future. While it may seem endless now, your divorce will eventually be over. Making decisions with your future — instead of the present — in mind is key to building a new life full of promise instead of regret.
We know that family law issues are often difficult, life-changing events. We also know how much it helps to have knowledgeable legal advocates on your side to help you obtain the best possible outcome. Contact us today for your free consultation.