Although every divorce, like every marriage, is different, most relationship experts agree on the most common risk factors for divorce. These include:
Lack of emotional support
When spouse don’t support each other’s individual dreams and goals, there’s a good chance the marriage will fall apart. Being dissatisfied with who your spouse really is – either by trying to change them or belittling them – makes it extremely difficult to maintain a loving, supportive relationship.
The promise of “through sickness and health” is beautiful, but not all relationships can withstand the stress or changes that occur when a spouse gets seriously sick. Basically, a serious illness changes the person you thought you married (healthy) and replaces him or her with someone who is now dependent on you 24/7. Many marriages don’t survive the burden of ill health, especially when it comes early in the marriage.
When someone is an addict, their addiction – not their spouse or their family – is their primary concern. Even when an addict is in recovery, the money and time spent to support that recovery coupled with concern for children living with an addict are common causes for divorcing an addict.
Higher income wives
Human beings are creatures of habit, and it takes a long time to change ingrained behavior. Which is why, despite the number of women in today’s workforce, both men and women are uncomfortable when the wife out-earns the husband. Relationship studies have shown that women who earn more than their husbands often feel more stress and exhibit less respect for their mates. Men whose wives earn more often feel a loss of self-worth and self-respect. Either way, salary inequities are tough on a marriage.
Marrying too young
Couples who marry young and have children right away have a higher incidence of divorce simply because they feel they have missed out on enjoying a full range of life experiences.
Marriage is already full of surprises. To prevent your marriage from ending in divorce, it is important to enter into it as prepared as possible. Taking marriage preparation classes is a good first step in preventing divorce, so you can both enter into your marriage with realistic expectations and eyes wide open.
At Murphy & Cistaro, we are not only concerned with your divorce today, but also with your quality of life long after your case is over. Your family law issues deserve to be managed with dignity and respect. You can prepare to civilly resolve your divorce, heal, and move on with your life with a legal team that has helped individuals all over New Jersey to heal and prosper. Contact us today for your free consultation.